Help
for Female Abusers
Perpetrators
of domestic Abuse
If you are abusive in your relationship you are a Perpetrator of Domestic
abuse and need to accept that fact and try and get help. If you are
being physically violent, emotionally abusing your partner, intimidating
your partner, controlling your partner, sexually abusing your partner
- you are a Perpetrator of Domestic abuse.
Many perpetrators
of domestic violence constantly put the blame on their partner - I'll
stop hitting you if you do this - if you do that - if you stop winding
me up - if you do what I say etc. etc. The only person who is responsible
for your actions is YOU. By blaming others you are acting like a child
- it is time to act like an adult and accept responsibility for your
own actions. The time to get help is NOW - not to keep putting it off
or denying that you need help. What you are doing is not only against
the law but you are ultimately destroying another person, destroying
their confidence, their trust, their self esteem and their respect for
you.
To be able
to take responsibility for your actions and to stop blaming others takes
strength and courage. Anyone who rules others through fear and intimidation
is a cowardly weak person. If you are a perpetrator of domestic abuse
you can choose what kind of person you want to be - cowardly and weak
(blaming others for your actions and continuing your abusive behaviour)
or strong and courageous (facing up to and taking responsibility for
your actions and getting help). If you choose the latter then try and
get help now - there are agencies who can provide workshops and counselling
to help you to stop this cycle of abuse.
Agencies
providing help and support for perpetrators of domestic abuse
AVP Britain
- Alternatives to Violence Project
The Alternatives to Violence Project is a national network of volunteers
running workshops for anyone who wants to find ways of resolving conflict
without resorting to violence.
Head Office: 0845 4582692,
avpbritain@waitrose.com
www.avpbritain.org.uk
